About love

Be ready, this one, might turn into a LONG! post.. ;)

Just yesterday, coming back from a friend's wedding, in that not so comfortable sleeper coach, sitting on the upper berth, i wondered for some reason about what love is.. And realized that i was wondering aloud, resulting in all the tired, yet not wanting to sleep, heads to get ticking! Then they started pitching in their own definitions of what love is, maybe from what they've experienced, or heard from others. It also led to awkward situations and questions, pregnant pauses, and not so satisfactory answers.. But well the question still remains does anyone really know what love is? i'm still at a loss if i know what this feeling really is..

Some things that came through from others were..

Love is habit, when you stay with each other for long, share every moment of life, talk about everything with each other, cannot live without the other, when you need them , they become a habit and hence love is habit.

Love is adjustment, when you love a person (though we don't know what love is ;)), we are ready to adjust for them, even not do things which we so love to do, because they don't like them. So we adjust for them, because we want them to be happy, and don't want to hurt them, because we love them. So love is adjustment.

Love is sacrifice, might be a bit similar to adjustment, but with greater intensity. When you love someone, you are willing to sacrifice everything for them. No matter what it is. You might end up changing yourself completely for the one you love. Sometime sacrifice even includes giving up the person whom you so love, because you love them.. This might mean setting them free, or something similar. So love is also sacrifice.

Love is attraction, love is lust. For some, love is lust.. The sheer attraction and carnic desire to possess the body of the person they love, which in their opinion is love. It could be their way to express what they feel.

Love is pain, when a person feels sorrow, seeing the one they love in pain, then that is love. When you go through intense pain and are still willing to go through it with not one word of complain for the person you love, then that pain is love.

Love is patience, when you are willing to wait for someone to come to you no matter how long it takes, then that is love.

And so on and so forth.

I got a lot of opinions, but all most all of them comparing love to another emotion, or saying that that other emotion is what love is. All these things if considered individually cannot be termed as love. So, is love a gathering of all sorts of emotions? Or does love need the support of another emotion to define it? Is it like air or water, which is colorless, which cannot be seen without adding a color or flavor to it? Or does something like love does not exist on its own? it is always born out of a mixture of many emotions? Like some compound in scientific terms.

Then i asked, if love is habit, if after being with each other for so long you know everything about that person, and you are used to him, you know what his next move/reaction/action is going to be. Then, what is it when you don't spend time with the person, when due to certain external reasons it is not possible to share everything with him and yet you know what that person would do when? But whenever you meet, you are as synchronized as if you've been together for all your life? You will know exactly how the person is going to react, or be?

If love is adjustment/sacrifice, when you are willing to adjust for the sake of the other person's joy. Then, what is it, when the other person will not let you adjust, because he wants you to be the way you are, and though some of your things might cause him discomfort, he will not let it get to him? When he does not expect you to sacrifice anything, and neither will you want him to do the same?

If love is attraction if love is lust, if love is possessiveness, then what is it, when you know that the other person might be with someone else at any given point of time, and still you know what he is thinking of.. When even after so much timing having passed, you share the same chemistry, and know each other like your own self?

What is it when without even having met the person, without having seen the person, at the first contact you know he is someone different? When you know that the thing which you share is not that people commonly come across? What is it that knowing full well of the other person's situation, nothing stops you from feeling the way you do. Not even yourself, not even that person. Nothing can stop you, or the other person. What is it, when two people are so synchronized that the other knows what one person is doing, thinking or feeling, even if they are miles apart, and not in touch. What is it when you just know that something is meant to be, and it shall always stay, even if in the material world it does not come alive. It may not, but since it is so alive and vibrant, nothing can stop it from being. Nothing can stop it from being noticed. People may try not to acknowledge it, they may try to crush it, blame it, disgrace it, but it will shine through.. What is it, that goes through hardships so unmanly, inflicted upon it by those two people and some by other people too.. What is it? Is it love? But then do we really know what love is?

Can you tell me something about love? My soul seems to reach no conclusion on this topic.. About love..